Things that stick in my craw…..

October 31, 2006 at 10:15 pm (General stuff, Race)

Well, I’m back with a quick post. First thing, Happy Halloween/Pagan new year. I’ve been buried in so much programing lately it isn’t funny. And I thought making websites was going to be fun, wrong kiddies. But, I digress….

The main thing thats been swirling in my mind as of late has been a matter that has hit close to home. See, I’m from Chicago, and there’s a singer who’s from there that you may have heard about who’s on trial by the name of R. Kelly….There is a gifted writer by the name of Jennifer Daniels who wrote a piece on a BET blog about the trial. The link is here:
Well, the responses were mostly appalling, ranging from the downright stupid to the downright sad.

I’ll probably get flamed to death for what I’m about to say, so I might as well say it….

R. Kelly supporters…..WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YA’LL??? I mean seriously, I’m not saying that ya’ll are crazy but please, explain. What exact mode of logic are ya’ll running on?

The main arguments that I’m sick of hearing about:

Just because we enjoy his music doesn’t mean we condone his actions….

No, that just makes you passive. The man has repeated deviant behavior towards minors and yet you still fund him by buying his albums, going to his concerts and turning an apathetic laden blind eye to the fact that the richer he becomes the more he could use his gains to pursue more young black girls.

Can you say the word “enable” kiddies? I knew you could.

It’s the girl’s fault, for being “hot assed” where were her parents? She’s a little…

STOP RIGHT NOW! While it may be true that some girls act way beyond their age limits (then again who didn’t at that age) that last time I checked, Robert is an adult and simply put HIS ASS SHOULD KNOW BETTER. But no, you must call his victims (allegedly) everything but, as my mom would say “a child of god” saying that they are slutty and deserved it. What the hell is wrong with ya’ll? And people wonder why some of the victims chose to take settlements instead of going to court. With (lack of) support from your own community, would you like to be dragged through the mud on a stand and have to relive all that happened? It reminds me of a speaker I had in my self defense class. She said many women chose not to go to trial because its like getting violated all over again.

I don’t care if the girls in question were running around his front lawn naked doing cartwheels, R. Kelly is grown and last time I checked, the legal age of consent in IL is not 14 if your partner is a grown ass man. He should of either said no, or maybe have consensual sex with someone around his age. (What a novel fucking concept.)

If R. Kelly wasn’t a rich, successful singer and the little girl was your daughter/niece, cousin, godchild, friend’s daughter etc. would you say those things? No, you wouldn’t even think them silently let alone say them out loud. It’s a lot easier to tear down a young victim rather than hold a middle aged man accountable these days….

He’s innocent until proven guilty. Why can’t you be supportive of your fellow brother, why can’t we get along and live in harmony and unity?

Last time I checked, Mom and Dad only had one child and that was me, so teh R. ain’t my brother. As for uplifting our community, I’m sorry for sounding cold, but I’ll save my uplifting for someone who deserves it, I.E. someone who uplifts.

If he wasn’t a star, if he didn’t have the twin cannons of wealth and status on his side, would anyone even defend him, except his lawyer(s) I mean. No, he would more than likely rot in jail. But because, 1. he can sing, 2. he has money and 3. he’s black, I’m supposed to shut up, get out my little red, black and green pom-poms and be supportive. Negro, please! What message are we sending to our community, especially our black girls who will one day become black women? “You mean the world to us, but if you get molested by a superstar then you’re SOL. Sorry.” What a way to show our love and how much we value black females.

I’m sorry that this seems so negative but it’s been on my mind for a long time. How can we grow as a community when we can’t even hold a member of it accountable for their actions, which we know are negative and detrimental?


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